Early attachments.

It's no secret that early attachments form the foundation of how we relate to others in our adult lives. But what most people don't realize is that these early relationships can have a huge impact even when they're not consciously remembered.

It's not just your conscious memories that affect how you interact with the world. Researchers have found that even if you can't remember your earliest childhood experiences, they still influence how you interact with others as an adult. For example, if your parents were very critical of you as a child, even if you don't consciously remember it, there's a good chance that you'll find yourself seeking out partners who are also critical of you. It's like your subconscious mind remembers these early experiences and tries to recreate similar situations in adulthood. This has to do with attachment styles; there are several different ones, such as avoidant, anxious, secure and disorganized. 

So what can we do about it? The first step is to become aware of our unconscious patterns—to see them for what they are and understand how they affect our lives. This will give us the power to change these patterns and transform our lives in ways we never thought possible.