Self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is when we are afraid of succeeding, so a part of us interferes with our ability to move forward.

When you're stuck in a situation that doesn't feel right, or when you're not making progress on something important to you—when the things that matter most to you aren't working out the way you'd hoped—it can be hard to tell whether it's because of something external or because of your actions. But there's a good chance that one of the reasons may be self-sabotage.

It's easy to blame others for our challenges, but sometimes we end up hurting ourselves without even realizing it. This can happen when we're afraid that something terrible will happen (or maybe something good) if we succeed. Getting caught in this cycle makes it hard for us to see how our behavior is actually holding us back from achieving what we want.

The good news is that self-sabotage isn't always permanent or impossible to overcome—you must start looking for the answers, research, or ask for help. 
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Here are a few self-sabotaging examples:

1. You might tell yourself that you're not good enough or that no one will like what you've done.

2. Maybe your nerves get the best of you and you just don't show up for an event or meeting.

3. You may sabotage your own success by not doing something important for yourself (like going to the gym), even though it would benefit you in the long run. 

Even if these things don't seem like sabotage at first, they can lead to relationship issues if someone doesn't feel like they deserve happiness or success with their partner.